No matter what you are trying to accomplish, such as getting a job promotion, selling a product, convincing your mate to see your side, being “real” will more likely help you get the job done better.

Being “real” means a few different things.

1)    It means being honest and open with your emotions and communication. It means using the old familiar “I” statements.  For example, “I think I really deserve this raise. I’ve taken the extra training to advance my skills, I’ve taken on extra assignments, and I’ve gotten rave reviews on my reports.” It’s not always easy to speak up for yourself, but you need to be a strong advocate for yourself. 

2)    Being  “real” also means having the courage to sing your own praises.  For example, telling a client prospect about the success your clients have working with you, or mentioning the length of time they stay a customer does not make you a braggart.  Instead, it demonstrates the confidence and success you have.  It shows that your clients see the high return of investment that your services brings to them, and will impress your prospect also.
 
3)    Being “real” also means being able to share the good and “not so good” moments with others.  Being  “real” also means that you can make mistakes.  One of my most embarrassing moments was when a new client showed up at my home, early in the morning, for her coaching session.  I was waiting for her phone call in my office.  I had to answer the door in my robe and face her square on, taking responsibility for the mix up about the location of our meeting.

Not exactly the way I wanted to present myself to her!

Being “real” will have you kicking yourself at times, but people like when they know you are authentic.  That means they can relate to you, allowing them to trust you more.
 
So don’t be afraid to show your true colors.  You will attract those who relate to you and that’s your perfect customer!

Jane Morrison, Certified Coach & Trainer, teaches success programs to women entrepreneurs. She empowers women to live their passion and effectively promote themselves. With their improved sales and marketing skills, they become the success they deserve. Let her help you make your dreams come true with confidence, courage and clarity of vision.

Look for her signature program “The Ultimate Step by Step Business Building Success Guide for Women Entrepreneurs” on her website, www.janemorrison.com

Many people are delighted and joyful this time of year, but many feel especially lonely. 

During a call with a coaching client, she expressed feeling very left out. She had been out at a holiday concert at her local school, and afterwards, noticed people greeting one another. She was not involved in that friendliness, and felt like an outsider. After talking about how sad she felt, we came up with some solutions. Loneliness can happen anytime, but  I think that feeling is more common this time of year than we know. 

Maybe  you have experienced it, I know I can certainly relate.  The media portrays these gay holiday family events and happy holiday festivities, yet holidays can be a time of feeling isolated, lonely and depressed. Some can’t wait for them be over and done with,  to be done with the expectations of wonder and joy,

Some suggestions to deal with loneliness this time of the year:

1) Don’t isolate yourself. Maybe the big parties are not your agenda, but do make an effort to call a friend for a cup of coffee or suggest seeing a movie together.

2) Be aware of others and try to reach out to those who may be feeling the same loneliness. It’s easy to get locked into our individual pain, but if you look outward, you’ll see you are not alone. 

3) Do what my client decided to do: One random act of kindness each day. She vowed to call her husband at work to say "I’m thinking about you", greet the store clerk by her name and give her a compliment, or share a friendly remark with someone else during the day. Wherever you are this holiday season, I wish you joy, health, peace, and happiness, and know you are not alone.  

Have you ever wanted to get something done but kept putting it off?

Do you get frustrated by your own need to make things just right?

 Do you start out and easily get distracted and never finish what you intended to do? 

I’ve suffered from all these procrastination descriptions, and I guess I’m not alone, because according to the Procrastination Research Group at Carleton University, up to 70 percent of North Americans struggle with procrastination.  

But I’m finally in a groove where I accomplish what I intend to do. 

So how do we accomplish what we really want to do? 

I’ll share my secrets and solutions with you, so you too can move forward with your dreams and goals. 

Join me in this hands on seminar where you will finally figure out:

1)  What’s REALLY important for you to get done

2)   What is your “prominent procrastination” profile

3)  The strategies and solutions you can use to overcome your suffering and guilt

4)  Easy steps to cure your  particular procrastination habits

5)  What’s really getting in the way of your procrastination

This “Class in Action” that will provide powerful worksheets that we’ll use during the class to get to the heart of your procrastination. You’ll also receive personal coaching from Jane to be able to get the breakthrough you need to move ahead. .

If you are FINALLY ready to break free of your procrastination bad habits…..then join us to discover solutions that really work! 

This class will be conducted by telesminar. That means you get to join us in the comfort of your home or office. All you need is a quiet place free of distraction, a telephone, and be ready to make some changes in your life.

Here’s an easy sign up link:  http://janemorrison.com/events

Just call at the designated time (1:00 PM Eastern; Noon Central; 11:00 AM Mountain; and 10:00 AM Pacific) and enter your pin number. It helps to have a headset. Please call from a landline since cell phones can cause distractions.

If you’d like to join us, but cannot make the date, be sure to register and we’ll send you the recording and worksheets that you can do on your own.

 DON’T DELAY, DON’T PUT THIS OFF

ANY LONGER…SIGN UP NOW!

P.S. This class is F*R*E*E to my “Boost your Business Mastermind Group”. Check it out at http://www.smartsavvysuccess.com/boost

 I got to thinking the other day about people who lose themselves, lose their sense of self, rarely take chances, stay stuck in a rut, play it safe.   If it’s ever happened to you, you know what I’m talking about.

I think this happens to both men and women as we travel into adulthood and take on more responsibilities. Responsibilities that take us away from ourselves like making a living, raising children, getting the kids off to school, taking care of bills and appointments. Somewhere we stop being “me” and end up being an extension of all sorts of people and responsibilities. We discover that we’ve lost sight of our dreams, and in the process, lost confidence in ourselves.  It’s no longer clear to us that we CAN be that high school cheerleader or football player, and we begin to doubt ourselves.

On a recent  Oprah show, she sought out women who had lost their sense of self, and had them participate in 3 activities they knew nothing about ahead of time. For the first activity, they put on roller skates, became a bad-ass team, and played against a professional roller derby team, getting knocked down, bruised and walloped in the process. But the women were exhilarated afterwards because they did it! They had a huge sense of accomplishment.  

Next, they were taken up in an airplane to sky –dive, fear of heights and all. They were shaking, scared, crying, and lightheaded but they jumped and landed safely on the ground, once again thrilled they had faced their fears.

For the last lesson, they shed all their clothes, and ran into the cold ocean, sharing the thrill of letting down   pretenses, self judgment and  being naked in front of others, accepting themselves in the process.

All these women claimed they were greatly impacted by these activities, changed profoundly by these experiences,  and claimed they had regained their confidence!

What will it take for you to reclaim your confidence? Each year, I make myself go waterskiing when at my parent’s cabin; for I know that once I say “no” to that activity I’ve always loved since I was young,  it will be the beginning of saying “no” to things I and they become things I am afraid of.

When I turned 50, I got my motorcycle license, challenging myself to do something I’d dreamt of but had feared. I  went to class that included all young men (and me) tipped my motorcycle over in front of them, dusted myself off and got right back on it.  I DID learn how to ride a motorcycle. I felt accomplished and proud, and yes, it I DID boost my confidence.

The fear of falling does conflict with the thrill of soaring, but the accomplishment is so worth the effort.      

What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

 Jane Morrison, CLC, is a small business marketing expert who works with women owned companies, teaching them how to effectively promote themselves and their business. With an improved knowledge about sales and marketing, her customers stop stressing about getting clients, finally earn the money they deserve and feel confident to achieve their dreams. With this newfound energy, they take time for themselves and what’s important to them.

Her signature program, “10 Essential Steps to Wise Women Marketing” is a powerful 3 part comprehensive program that takes you from where you are, to where you want to go!

Check out her group coaching mastermind program launching in December  at  http://www.smartsavvysuccess.com/boost